Think I'll join jkath - different reasons

Freedom also means the fredom to leave as well as to join. Most will just disappear as we did from the other place. These two have been kind enough to say that they are going and try to give a reason. It is their personal choice as it is mine to stay. I don't particularly like some of what is going on or talked about in the romper room, but then I ignore the posts. Some of the language used is not what I would use but I try to look through that at the meaning behind. I don't always appreciate lewd jokes so I don't read them.

There are people who seem to take offence at a drop of a letter and others who are anything goes.

This is just like any community online or offline. Unless you have a myriad of rules which no one understands or moderators who nit pick every thread, you have to live and let live. The choice is with each of us as to whether we read or not, whether we leave or not.

Most of my online firends from other forums are here and I enjoy their company so I put up with what I don't like.
 
joec said:
Actually you have that ability now by simply looking at the forum a thread is in followed by what the subject says. Now to ignore it simply don't click on it and once done reading what you want click on Quick Links followed by Mark Forum Read.
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She doesn't, she is a Mod. None of us have that option, we go where the job takes us.
Luckily Doc sees us as members first and Mods second, so we are free to jump into threads and make an arse of ourselves right along with anyone else!! LOL.

But if it becomes an issue, she may have to read it even though she wanted to stay clear of it.
 
a lot of interesting points ..
i think there are a lot of growing pains going on here ..
there are a lot of people with good ideas ..
there might be a little to much of trying to make everyone happy ..
there also seems to be one or two members who appear to
take everything personally .. its the interweb kids ..
try not to let the scary avatar hurt your feelings ...
 
My mistake then as for mods they don't have that ability but they also have the ability to turn down being a mod I would think. Now I'm not trying to be argumentative here just making a point really. No one but you decides to open and read a forum a thread of a post by a given member or group. There is another freedom no one mentions is the freedom to exercise your right to chose. Now that goes for the mods also, an example is when Doc asked for mods I didn't volunteer for a number of reasons but that would be one of them, forced to read every post.
 
joec said:
My mistake then as for mods they don't have that ability but they also have the ability to turn down being a mod I would think. Now I'm not trying to be argumentative here just making a point really. No one but you decides to open and read a forum a thread of a post by a given member or group. There is another freedom no one mentions is the freedom to exercise your right to chose. Now that goes for the mods also, an example is when Doc asked for mods I didn't volunteer for a number of reasons but that would be one of them, forced to read every post.
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That is true, no one put a gun to our heads, LOL!
 
Wart said:
Something I've known for a long time is, no matter what "It" is there will always be someone who will take offense to "It", or be offended by "It", no matter if they have to work hard at finding something wrong with "It".

In short, there will always be someone to get pissed off at anything.

In this stance, unless there was a post removed the person 'leaving' hadn't even posted in the thread.

Seems to me that person wanted to be pissed off and AARP was only the excuse.

So now everyone has to walk around this place making sure not to brush up against another, being touchy feely and not make remarks or jokes that may possibly "irritate" someone, even in innocence?

Lets create another DC while we're at it.

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I will only respond to the sentence that you mentioned DC. I have taken on as part of the staff of this site because I believe what we are doing. We are trying to give freedom without insult, allow comedy without anarchy, work with everyone to make this a good site. How hard do we need to work with everyone to cultivate a good site that has freedom, a theme, and a staff that will just try and make everyone feel at home. We work very hard to make this a great site and we have the beginnings of a great thing. This site is only a year old+ and we need time to iron out the wrinkles to get it to work. ie This is a work in progress. Let us work it for you and listen as we have, and let us work with you and create something great.

Rick
 
joec said:
My mistake then as for mods they don't have that ability but they also have the ability to turn down being a mod I would think. Now I'm not trying to be argumentative here just making a point really. No one but you decides to open and read a forum a thread of a post by a given member or group. There is another freedom no one mentions is the freedom to exercise your right to chose. Now that goes for the mods also, an example is when Doc asked for mods I didn't volunteer for a number of reasons but that would be one of them, forced to read every post.
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I'm not sure if you are directing this at me or not. But yes, we have that choice and I usually avoid subjects that do not intrest me unless they are reported. Yes, we have the right to choose to moderate or not to moderate. You are not forced to read every post. If that is the case, I guess Doc needs to fire me now! :oops:
 
sattie said:
I'm not sure if you are directing this at me or not. But yes, we have that choice and I usually avoid subjects that do not intrest me unless they are reported. Yes, we have the right to choose to moderate or not to moderate. You are not forced to read every post. If that is the case, I guess Doc needs to fire me now! :oops:
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I was responding to the fact of needing special features to block whole forum but really didn't think about the fact you are a moderator. Then I was told basically because you are a moderator you didn't have the choice which I was responding too here in your quote. Now I could have misunderstood what was said in that regard but every person here has the ability to hide posters and as for forum why would someone want to block all posts? It is simply a little confusing to me what all the fuss is about is about in regards to reading stuff you don't want to aside from being offended for some reason by perhaps a response to one in a thread as in the case of Karen. As for that again it is her choice to leave over it or not.
 
I thought it might be a good idea for those that choose not to see anything from the Romper Room, that they could put it on ignore, like when you have had enough of someone and put them on ignore.... yes, it is easy enough to pass right over it. Some may want the option of not seeing it at all. Maybe all they want to see is cooking related stuff. I dunno.
 
sattie said:
I thought it might be a good idea for those that choose not to see anything from the Romper Room, that they could put it on ignore, like when you have had enough of someone and put them on ignore.... yes, it is easy enough to pass right over it. Some may want the option of not seeing it at all. Maybe all they want to see is cooking related stuff. I dunno.
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In all honesty, seems like right now the RR is not very popular 'as is' with many members. I liked the idea of keeping the general forums that are viewable by guests as more 'tame' and letting a members lounge be a place for more 'risque' or 'adult' subjects, but not for topics that are just too inflammatory and provocative.
No matter what we do, we need to have the same set of rules across the board. Be uncivil, inflammatory, or launch personal attacks and your post gets pulled.
 
sattie said:
I thought it might be a good idea for those that choose not to see anything from the Romper Room, that they could put it on ignore, like when you have had enough of someone and put them on ignore.... yes, it is easy enough to pass right over it. Some may want the option of not seeing it at all. Maybe all they want to see is cooking related stuff. I dunno.
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Exactly. Not sure how many people on a Cooking Forum want to see posts about Gay Marriage, Golden Showers, Cocrophilia, Infantilism, Obama's latest **** Up, etc, etc, etc.

Personally, even if I don't have an opinion about it, or don't care for it, I do find it a bit interesting to see what others say about it. But, there are folks that just don't even want to THINK about it. Kinda like a super dry martini.....just wave the vermouth bottle at the glass, but don't ever pour! :lol:
 
Keltin said:
Exactly. Not sure how many people on a Cooking Forum want to see posts about Gay Marriage, Golden Showers, Cocrophilia, Infantilism, Obama's latest **** Up, etc, etc, etc.

Personally, even if I don't have an opinion about it, or don't care for it, I do find it a bit interesting to see what others say about it. But, there are folks that just don't even want to THINK about it. Kinda like a super dry martini.....just wave the vermouth bottle at the glass, but don't ever pour! :lol:
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Now that's MY kinda martini!!!!! :alc: :clap:
 
I think we need VeraBlue to be Supercalifragilisticmoderatoroverallwhodaretoenterandcanneverleaveatleastwithoutalltheirparts to keep us all in line, and then we can never go wrong...

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Hey folks, I came back to read these responses, and want to assure you that (1) I was not being manipulative; I'm not expecting people to beg me to stay; and (2) this has nothing to do with free speech. As I was happily preparing to post my own personal data in Stacy's thread that asked for it, I came across the complaint that most people had "middle-aged" children and made a reference to an AARP Forum. Obviously, I was reluctant to post my own info at that point, and began to realize that maybe this place just isn't a good fit for me. It may have sounded like a joke to some of you, but to me it felt like I was not welcome here because of my age (65). I am not normally thin-skinned at all, and I was surprised that it bothered me that much. I have always had friends of all ages and this is probably the first time I have experienced a negative response because of age...yes, it hurt my feelings. And normally, I am a very tough b***h. I made a very impulsive decision, actually. I can assure you that I was not just “looking for an excuse” to be upset about something – anyone who is familiar with my posts over time would realize that I am not that kind of person. That sort of allegation is one of the reasons I just don't fit in here.


When I read over these threads, I realized that I made the right decision. The free speech that is so valued here is construed by some as the freedom to be mean-spirited, and to indulge your vindictive impulses. Maybe not everyone grasps the difference. I know it sounds like a cliché, but it is true that freedom carries with it a sense of responsibility. I don't function well in an environment where you don't know where the next snipe is coming from – I respect myself and always respect others as well. Respect for myself means that I don't remain in a place that makes me uncomfortable. Unrestrained verbal sparring is not my idea of recreation.

So, I stand by my decision to move on, and I will genuinely miss most of you, who have shown me many, many kindnesses. There is nothing wrong with your site, Doc - I thank PieSusan for making a courageous stand in my defense, but this is not a "right or wrong" issue, just a decision to not spend my time in a pursuit where I am apparently out of my element. My best wishes remain with you.
 
karen i understand where you are coming from, and will certainly miss you.

but i also will say that i'd be really disappointed to see you go back to that other place. we all left there for various but in some way similar reasons. was it really so bad here that would make you forget the bs over there?

nct is growing and will certainly change. there are bound to be rough spots. i just hope that you would consider keeping an open mind, and check back here to see if things improve to your liking.
 
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