The Pissed Off Thread

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not really a pissed moment just a down in the dumps moment

i have not been around any where online for awhile. having some bad times including health issues and some sad times. my girl who is a 4.0 GPA student has to quit college because we just don't have the money for her to continue which means she won't have medical coverage under our health plan and she also has some health issues. so she will be looking for a job but it will take quite awhile till she has medical coverage.


i am feeling very sad for my girl
 
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:( I'm sorry to hear that Peeps! Prayers being sent that things find a way to work out and get back to normal!
Glad you are back online though.
 
my Mom & i were bickering over my being hesitant to work after school, so as not to lose my ins., & she decided that she'd send my payments for my loans. that wasn't my intent. she herself chose that. & i figure there's more to that than my getting a career established.
 
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she won't have medical coverage under our health plan and she also has some health issues. so she will be looking for a job but it will take quite awhile till she has medical coverage.


i am feeling very sad for my girl
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Awww, Peepsie, I hope she finds employment soon. Health insurance is an important issue not to mention some income security. I pray all goes well.
 
I'm so sorry, Peeps. This hits close to home. My kids don't have health insurance, either, and it's a constant worry that they will get sick.

I'm so sorry she's out of school this semester. Maybe she could apply for some merit-based scholarships for next semester. A 4.0 GPA should qualify her for quite a few. Hugs to her and to you.
 
That's terrible Peeps. What career is she considering? If she is interested in teaching, the federal government has a student loan forgiveness program where if she teaches in a low income school for 5 consecutive years, she can get up to $17,500 of loans plus interest forgiven. I think Math, Science and Special Education teachers get the most but I think any teacher that teaches in a low income school can get at least $5000 forgiven. That's what DD is doing. She is a math teacher and is halfway through her 5th year. She has been getting the loans deferred so she can make the most of it.

And, like Terry said, there are scholarships out there that she should be able to qualify for.

I hope things work out for her.
 
I was gonna say check out some Pell grants for starters, but definitely go to the colleges financial aid office and seek help. They have lists and lists of all kinds of scholarships, low interest student loans, and grants that can help her.
You would be surprised at how many scholarships go unclaimed just because no one knew it was there...
 
This morning I decided to tell my oldest friend where she can stick it. From day-one she's always been selfish and self-centered, and her talent for continuously getting herself into trouble is second to none. For 20 years I have been her "go-to" person for advice and assistance, and for 20 years she's refused to put my advice to work for her (or even consider what I've had to say, at her request). I put up with it for this long out of loyalty...trying to convince myself "she'd do the same for me". After much thought I came to realize I never have (and most likely never will) get even 1/2 of what I've given to her back. As with any other unhealthy, one-sided relationship, the best thing for me to do is cut my losses and move on. As the song goes, "My give-a-damn is busted". :glare:
 
Good for you, Newnork!

I came to that point with a "friend" I'd grown up with. We were in our 20's when I'd finally HAD it with her, and another roommate and I kicked her out of our apartment.

It was the right thing to do, but I still dream about her occasionally, so I guess my underlying guilt is still there. DAMN that guilt! LOL!

Good luck!

Lee
 
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This morning I decided to tell my oldest friend where she can stick it. From day-one she's always been selfish and self-centered, and her talent for continuously getting herself into trouble is second to none. For 20 years I have been her "go-to" person for advice and assistance, and for 20 years she's refused to put my advice to work for her (or even consider what I've had to say, at her request). I put up with it for this long out of loyalty...trying to convince myself "she'd do the same for me". After much thought I came to realize I never have (and most likely never will) get even 1/2 of what I've given to her back. As with any other unhealthy, one-sided relationship, the best thing for me to do is cut my losses and move on. As the song goes, "My give-a-damn is busted". :glare:
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Congrats to you. Way to go Girl. I know it was tough to do, but, it sounds like you had it up to here and enough was enough.

FM and I have so much in common. My daughter had to do the exact same thing. I harped on her about this 'best friend' but that did no good (I'm sure you are not surprised). I was so sick of seeing this girl take advantage of my daughters good nature. But my daughter had to see it for herself, plus grow a little backbone. I swear, her friend was touched. Finally the straw that broke the camels back fell and that was that. My daughter moved out of the apartment they were sharing and that was that. She moved on. that was a few years ago and all has went well. They had a few issues after the falling out, but it all worked out for the better. They had been friends since 7th grade, so it was a tough (but long overdue in dad's eyes) breakup.

I know, it's got to be hard on you. Hang in there and stick to your guns. Maybe this is what you friend needed to hear to get her act together. Good luck with the whole situation, and moving on.
 
Thanks QSis and Doc! :flowers:

Luckily I never lived with her, especially since she has no concept of managing her money. If we'd been roommates we probably would have "broken up" a heck of a lot sooner. She was one of the people instrumental in influencing my decision-making through most of my life...she was the epitome of what I DIDN'T want to be like. Through watching her and her constant trials I learned what NOT to do in my own life, without having to learn "the hard way". :mellow:
 
It's really hard to let go of someone you shared years with. I think it's because people grow and they take different directions and then in some cases, you realize there is really nothing you have left in common to sustain a friendship. Don't let it make you feel like the years of friendship you had are now worthless or that you were foolish to have been friends. Even special things don't always last. But it's good to know when it's time to move on - otherwise it would ruin any good memories you had.
Hugs to you, Angel.
 
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It's really hard to let go of someone you shared years with. I think it's because people grow and they take different directions and then in some cases, you realize there is really nothing you have left in common to sustain a friendship. Don't let it make you feel like the years of friendship you had are now worthless or that you were foolish to have been friends. Even special things don't always last. But it's good to know when it's time to move on - otherwise it would ruin any good memories you had.
Hugs to you, Angel.
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Very wise words Terry. So so true. Growing up together is special. Remember the good times, don't let them slip away, but also remember why the friendship ended, but don't dwell on them. All of these memories helped shape who you are. It's all good in the long run.
 
Thanks Terry. I don't regret our friendship, in fact I now realize just how much good I got out of knowing her for so many years. The good memories will always be there (for me), and I hope this falling out doesn't ruin those years of memories for her. I do care about her and wish her well, I just cannot be involved in her life anymore. Someday, I hope she realizes that this was for the best. I'm sure she feels hurt and betrayed by me, and considering she's currently in an undesirable situation, this has gotta feel like pouring salt on an open wound...which was not my intention at all.
 
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Very wise words Terry. So so true. Growing up together is special. Remember the good times, don't let them slip away, but also remember why the friendship ended, but don't dwell on them. All of these memories helped shape who you are. It's all good in the long run.
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I agree completely. Thanks for everyone's support and kind words. It's helped me, a lot, through this. :flowers:
 
Oh, so it's ok to have an open invoice from October? lol....tell that to the gas company.

The problem today is this one customer continues to third party bill. So when I call them looking for payment, they say "Oh, I don't think we received payment from so and so yet. Can I call you back? Can you fax me a duplicate?" AAAARRRRGH! How is it my business who owes you what?! You called for the job, you pay for it! Otherwise, hop in your Buick and drive it yourself!
 
You are right, they should pay.
Sure sounds like a major league stall tactic.
You might have to sic your big guy on them. :yum:
 
I am normally not a bitchy type... BUT, its 10 degrees outside and the shipyard that maintains this building has the AC running here in the basement. The upper two floors have the windows open. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
 
I am exhausted trying to deal with someone who has a huge ego and a mean streak. He takes credit for things he did not do and has the nerve to criticize me. He is lazy and fails to do the tasks that he is hired to do all the while getting paid to do so. It sucks big time.
 
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