Fisher's Mom
Mother Superior
Do you believe in spanking children as a form of discipline?
(Note: I said children. LOL)
(Note: I said children. LOL)
(Poll) To Spank or Not to Spank
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Miniman
Mini man - maxi food
I am undecided about this. I have spanked my boys, but it has not always had an effect. I certainly go for the the rule that discipline should not happen as an instant recetion, and out of temper, A smack that is given calmly as a clear discipline action and the child understands why.
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Kimchee
Guest
In very limited circumstances, more as a single swat attention getter.
Fisher's Mom
Mother Superior
I don't spank, but I am lucky enough to be able to be home with my kids so I have time for really long lectures! LOL I don't think a swat on the butt from time to time is going to mess up a kid, though.
Dang Terry, I knew the answer until I saw the children part in the post. 
:whip: 
Very good answer for being undecided. My kids are grown and I respect their wishes along the lines of the grandkids but I firmly believe at times a spanking is appropriate. Never out of anger or temper, but disciplined with an explanation on why. Once you do it once or twice and they know you are serious it can be used as a tool to help control their behavior with the threat of a spanking. Sounds horrible but it works.
I knew one couple who would threaten but never follow through. Kids soon learn this and take advantage big time.
:whip: Very good answer for being undecided. My kids are grown and I respect their wishes along the lines of the grandkids but I firmly believe at times a spanking is appropriate. Never out of anger or temper, but disciplined with an explanation on why. Once you do it once or twice and they know you are serious it can be used as a tool to help control their behavior with the threat of a spanking. Sounds horrible but it works.
I knew one couple who would threaten but never follow through. Kids soon learn this and take advantage big time.
chocolate moose
New member
Do you think it's an effective method for a spouse?
Fisher's Mom
Mother Superior
ROTFLMAO! I guess it depends on what you're trying to get your spouse to do.....
Lefty
Yank
I am old school so yes.
True funny story;
I was in Wal-Mart and my daughter was in a mood so she decides to play hide and seek with us with out telling us and she hides in one of the clothes racks that is round. We were both freaking out and we got them to call a code whatever and start to close down the store. After what seemed like a lifetime she steps out of the clothes rack. Her mother sees her and starts to give her the stern lecture. I see them and I go over and I give the stern lecture, but I decided to get her attention with a couple of good swats to the bottom to make sure it sank in.
Long story short, a lady tells me I can't do that and threatens to call the police. I turn and look the lady right dead in the eye and I said to her, be my guest, I would rather see a judge now for disciplining my child than later for my daughters crimes.
She didn't turn me in BTW.
True funny story;
I was in Wal-Mart and my daughter was in a mood so she decides to play hide and seek with us with out telling us and she hides in one of the clothes racks that is round. We were both freaking out and we got them to call a code whatever and start to close down the store. After what seemed like a lifetime she steps out of the clothes rack. Her mother sees her and starts to give her the stern lecture. I see them and I go over and I give the stern lecture, but I decided to get her attention with a couple of good swats to the bottom to make sure it sank in.
Long story short, a lady tells me I can't do that and threatens to call the police. I turn and look the lady right dead in the eye and I said to her, be my guest, I would rather see a judge now for disciplining my child than later for my daughters crimes.
She didn't turn me in BTW.
I would never spank my wife, but my girlfriend, yes.
Fisher's Mom
Mother Superior
It's good to know you have priorities, FooD.
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VeraBlue
Head Mistress
hahaha, was that for me???
I have to admit that when my kids were very young and I was very young I came very close to actually losing control and it freaked the shit outta me. "never again' I said early on, and I never did again.
Could have something to do with the fact that my kids have me wrapped around their fingers
..but they grew up just fine. Well mannered, well spoken and pretty well adjusted.
VeraBlue
Head Mistress
Fisher's Mom
Mother Superior
How in the world did you know, girlfriend?
I love your answer about spanking kids, Vera. We never tell young people about how much their kids will frustrate them and piss them off! But it's true - sometimes they will work on your last nerve. There isn't a parent in the world who hasn't been pushed right up to the edge at least once by their little darlings.
It's good to know you have priorities, FooD.
(Need another girlfriend?
See how I turned out being spanked as a child by my father and by my Catholic school principal?
Deelady
New member
I said yes but as an attention getter....i.e. a swat on the butt or the hand to make it known that I am NOT just standing there talking.Thank goodness Ayla responds to THREATS of spanking so I never really have to follow through. But I do NOT believe in spanking with a belt or other object, to me that is going over the line!
buckytom
Grill Master
i voted absolutely not!
i can only speak from my limited experience as a dad of one, but i have 17 nieces and nephews and have seen the various parenting techniques that have been employed by my siblings. good people all, just trying to do their best.
a few times, my boy has decided to push the limits of what he wants to explore (cause that's what kids do in an absolute sense), be it out of sheer curiosity to complete obstinance a few times, and i can easily see that any type of corporal punishment will only teach him that a form of violence is an acceptable way of handling a disagreement. after all, he's a kid and doesn't understand yet why he shouldn't do things, so he thinks it's a disagreement no matter how wrong i know it is.
now, i don't baby him, to the point my wife gets annoyed at how rough we play. it occasionally carries over to her, so i also put my foot down about being rough with mommy and all girls; to learn a seperate level of physical and emotional respect for them.
but i'm also teaching him that physical aggression is to be directed and controlled in things like sporting competitions (he's already a hockey fanatic, and i've had to explain that the fights are actually a strategic part of the game, but they all still go out for ice cream after every game, lol), or possibly in defense of your own or your friends' welfare. the latter being the only real thing to worry about. it's important to make him know when and why to get violent, and there be no blurred lines for him to have to consider.
if you want your kid to be smart, teach him how to think rather than to react. often, a parent understands the magnitude of a kids error that the child has no comprehension thereof, so the punishment of some kind of physical violence merely adds another complicated dimension that didn't need to exist in what you want the kid to figure out.
any of this make sense? i'm tired and rambling tonight.
i can only speak from my limited experience as a dad of one, but i have 17 nieces and nephews and have seen the various parenting techniques that have been employed by my siblings. good people all, just trying to do their best.
a few times, my boy has decided to push the limits of what he wants to explore (cause that's what kids do in an absolute sense), be it out of sheer curiosity to complete obstinance a few times, and i can easily see that any type of corporal punishment will only teach him that a form of violence is an acceptable way of handling a disagreement. after all, he's a kid and doesn't understand yet why he shouldn't do things, so he thinks it's a disagreement no matter how wrong i know it is.
now, i don't baby him, to the point my wife gets annoyed at how rough we play. it occasionally carries over to her, so i also put my foot down about being rough with mommy and all girls; to learn a seperate level of physical and emotional respect for them.
but i'm also teaching him that physical aggression is to be directed and controlled in things like sporting competitions (he's already a hockey fanatic, and i've had to explain that the fights are actually a strategic part of the game, but they all still go out for ice cream after every game, lol), or possibly in defense of your own or your friends' welfare. the latter being the only real thing to worry about. it's important to make him know when and why to get violent, and there be no blurred lines for him to have to consider.
if you want your kid to be smart, teach him how to think rather than to react. often, a parent understands the magnitude of a kids error that the child has no comprehension thereof, so the punishment of some kind of physical violence merely adds another complicated dimension that didn't need to exist in what you want the kid to figure out.
any of this make sense? i'm tired and rambling tonight.