Feeling Guilty

[Sass Muffin]

Actually, Grandson Sammy and I visited yesterday, and she seemed a little better. It was almost as if she wanted to tell me about the nice things she's discovering there, but she isn't quite ready to stop being mad yet!!

She isn't too crazy about their non-smoking policy (she has to go outdoors) and she misses the animals (our pets-not me and Sammy!)but other than that she seems a bit more settled. I think you nailed it Dan-nobody likes change.

We brought her flowers and a vase, and some framed pictures of the pets, and by the time we left, she was in pretty good spirits. Not to mention I know that they are making her eat at least two meals a day, and take her medications regularly. Hopefully, her outlook will continue to improve.

Our house seems a little more "empty" now, and while I still get pangs of guilt, I feel better knowing it was for the best.

 

[PieSusan]

Sometimes it can be very trying to do the right thing for an elderly loved one. Some fight like the devil when they think they are going to lose their independence but in the end, with love and care they usually come round and get acclimated to their new life. Sometimes it is the comraderie of folks their own age or activities that make a difference. Don't give up and try not to feel guilty. Just visit, and ensure that she doesn't feel abandoned that is their biggest fear.