I took choice #4. I would have preferred to be able to take 2 and 3 together. If someone is hanging out in the kitchen and talking, I have no porblem, it they stay out of the way. If they are willing to help and are compatible, I am fine with that. I agree with Trish - if I am cooking it is my rules, conversely, if I am in someone else's kitchen, their rules.
Besided, there is no way that I am going to get away cooking without Bear & Liam being in attendance. It is easier in the winter, they don't like the cold floor and stay in the doorway. In the summer, they like the tile floor.
My dream house the kitchen nd living room would be one room. the kitchen would be a circular or semi circulat counter. The sink and cooktop would be in the counter so I could cook and kibitzers could sit around the other side. Also a big screen TV across the room to keep the non kitchen types entertained aithout them being too far away to participate.