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TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 06:00 AM
She passed a little after 4 this morning. I'm glad that I had last Sunday to tell her bye and she was able to tell us that she loved us and she opened her eyes long enough to look at us. You really had to listen or you wouldn't hear, but, we did.
This pic shows who she was. She loved the kids. She was always there to hold every new baby in the family. My niece just had one and he was the first that she had not held,so, my niece took him up the the home and they laid him in her arms. She may or may not have known, but, she DID hold the last of her great great grand babies!! She left behind 5 grandkids, 11 great grandkids and 22 great great grandkids and she was there for every single won when we were born. If she saw a baby in a store, she would stop and talk to them and just touch their little hands.

this is Christmas 07 with my great niece, her great great grandaughter, Angelina.
Angie was born at 5 months and only weighed 1lb and 12 oz. She went through hell with surgeries, transfusion, collapse lungs, etc... she is the miracle child and she loved her Mammaw.

http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e228/texasgirl1107/100_0050.jpg

Biskit
06-14-2009, 06:38 AM
I'm verry sorry, Stacy. (((((BIG HUGS)))))

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 06:39 AM
I really need that, Monte, thank you!

QSis
06-14-2009, 06:46 AM
Awwwww, Stacy, I'm sorry. Your grandmother looks and sounds wonderful!

Your lovely post brings tears to my eyes, since my grandmother was my "person" (everybody has one). She's been gone for 18 years, but I still talk to her, and say her sayings and think of her and miss her like hell. And I'll bet she's loving every minute of it, too. :-)

Peace, Stacy.

Lee

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 06:49 AM
Thank you, Lee. Mammaw has always had a really big place in my heart. After my momma died, she took a lot more of it. I will miss her dearly, but, she is no longer in pain. She just missed her 92nd birthday. She had a really good life and enjoyed it to the fullest.

Cooksie
06-14-2009, 07:42 AM
I'm so very sorry.

homecook
06-14-2009, 08:01 AM
Stacy, I am so very sorry to hear this...my heart is hurting for you. It is so hard to let go even when you know it's for the best. I am so happy that you got to say goodbye. Prayers going out to your family.


{{{{{HUGS}}}}} and much love coming your way!!!!

smoke king
06-14-2009, 08:10 AM
So sorry Stacy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Miniman
06-14-2009, 08:13 AM
Very sorry to hear that, I know you will really miss. She sounds like a wonderful woman.

VeraBlue
06-14-2009, 08:18 AM
Please accept my sympathy for your loss.

JoeV
06-14-2009, 08:19 AM
My condolences. She can now watch over all of you from a better vantage point.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 08:33 AM
Thank you, so much! I really appreciate your thoughts right now!!

TxsChef
06-14-2009, 08:55 AM
I'm so, so sorry Stacy! (((((Stacy))))) Grandmothers are sooooooo extra special!

GotGarlic
06-14-2009, 08:58 AM
I'm sorry to hear this news, Stacy. She sounds like a wonderful woman who left you with great memories.

joec
06-14-2009, 08:58 AM
My sincerest condolences for you loss Tracy. I still think of my grandmother who lived with us till her death. She was the woman that raised me and I will always miss her most.

Adillo303
06-14-2009, 09:04 AM
Gramma's are special and they leave special memories. I am sorry that she is gone. I am glad tat she left you woderfum memories.

Andy

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 09:06 AM
thank you all for your kind thoughts. I really appreciate them!!

Luckytrim
06-14-2009, 09:22 AM
The candle is lit, Stace... ((( you )))

Lefty
06-14-2009, 09:39 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 09:42 AM
Thank you LT and Lefty!

BamsBBQ
06-14-2009, 09:52 AM
hun.......i have no more words... my heart hurts for you and your family today.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 09:59 AM
Thank you, Jeff!

RobsanX
06-14-2009, 10:35 AM
I'm very sorry for your loss TG.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 10:37 AM
Thank you!!

lilylove
06-14-2009, 10:53 AM
good thoughts and warm hugs.

Mama
06-14-2009, 10:58 AM
I so sorry to hear about your loss Stacy. She looks like she was the perfect grandmother. I'm sure you have some wonderful memories. We're here for you....

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 11:00 AM
Thank you, you two. I do have 40 years of great memories of her. She was always there for us, no matter what.

PieSusan
06-14-2009, 11:56 AM
I am so sorry for your loss, Stacy. It is one of the hardest parts of life, to lose the ones we love so dearly. May you take strength in knowing that her memory will live on in the hearts and minds of all who knew and loved her. Further, if she were a good cook, you can keep her memory alive in your favorite recipes of hers. It is what I love to do!

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 12:00 PM
thank you, Susan. She loved to cook and yes, I think we will all be fighting over her recipe books, lol

Love2"Q"
06-14-2009, 12:14 PM
you are in our thoughts and prayers ..

our condolences for your loss ..

Kei
06-14-2009, 02:46 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. Just know she in a better place now.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 02:51 PM
Thank you L2Q and Kei. Yes, she is definitely in a better place.

I found this poem after my momma died and made plaques for my sisters and grandmother with it. I have changed mother with Mammaw and am going to request it be read at her services



In tears we saw you sinking,
and watched you pass away
Our hearts were almost broken
I wanted you to stay

But when I saw you sleeping,
So peaceful, free from pain,
How could I wish you back with us
To suffer that again

It broke our hearts to lose you,
but you did not go alone,
For part of us went with you,
the day GOD took you home

If roses grow in heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my Mammaw's arms
and tell her they're from me.

Tell her we love her and miss her,
and when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek
and hold her for a while.

Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day
But there's an ache within my heart
that will never go away.

Don't think of her as gone away
her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
this earth is only one

Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years

And think of her living
on the hearts of those touched
For nothing loved is every lost

Author unknown
and she is loved so very much.

lifesaver91958
06-14-2009, 03:52 PM
Lots of love and huggs to you Stacy!
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TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 04:01 PM
Thank you!! I appreciate that!!

buzzard767
06-14-2009, 04:07 PM
My sincere condolences, Stacy. What a wonderful life she must have lead having all those children to love.

TexasGirl
06-14-2009, 04:18 PM
Thank you Buzz! She really did. She had 3 charm pins with wording and then a loop to hold charms, one was grandmother, one great grandmother and the other was great great grandmothers, full of baby shoe charms with every one of our birthstones it them. She wore them proudly and made sure people saw them, lol.

dansdiamond
06-14-2009, 11:41 PM
Stacy, Shr looked like a beautiful woman. Thanks for sharing a bit of her life with us!

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TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 07:03 AM
thank you, Dan

Fisher's Mom
06-15-2009, 01:06 PM
Awww, Stacy, I just read this. I'm so sorry that your Mammaw is gone. I know there's a big hole in your heart right now. Hang close with your sisters and family right now as you make your way through the final care for her. I don't know what happens after we die, but I hope she can see what a beautiful and loving mark she left on so many people. Her life was a job well done and I hope her rewards are rich. A big hug for you now, sweetie. We're here for you.

Sass Muffin
06-15-2009, 01:20 PM
Hugs Stacy.
Your Grams is with God now.
How cool is that? ;)

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 04:39 PM
Thank you Terry and Loralei! today was hard. My sisters and I met with my aunt to finalize all of it and I was fine, going through the pics and choosing the memorial pamphlet and quotes and all that, but, they took us in the show us the casket and cript that my aunt chose and I totally lost it!! I haven't been able to find peace since. Maybe everything that has happened lately with this, it finally hit me, I don't know. It's at the same place as my mom and the services in the same chapel. I'm ready to get off of this ride now.......PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Peggy
06-15-2009, 05:00 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, she sounds like a great person. I know she will be missed and was much loved.

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 05:03 PM
thank you, peggy and yes, she was and there is a giant hole that will never be filled!!

rickismom
06-15-2009, 05:25 PM
I'm so so sorry for your loss - gone but never forgotten. Take care of you and many hugs and prayers to you and your family - Sharon

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 05:33 PM
Thank you Sharon!!

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 06:16 PM
I have taken the task of doing her memorial website, the cd's for the services, pictures and getting a poem that is in my mama's handwriting {loving that} titled My Mama's hands, typed and sent off to the funeral home to be put in the memorial pamphlet and get the obituary typed and sent off with her picture for the Dallas paper. My heart hurts, but, it feels good to take some off of my sister and aunt and do something to honor her. I'm off one more day on bereavement pay and I will be able to get this all done tomorrow.

Miniman
06-15-2009, 06:17 PM
I keep thinking of you - don't hold it all in, you can express all on here, crying is allright too.

Biskit
06-15-2009, 06:19 PM
Thank you Terry and Loralei! today was hard. My sisters and I met with my aunt to finalize all of it and I was fine, going through the pics and choosing the memorial pamphlet and quotes and all that, but, they took us in the show us the casket and cript that my aunt chose and I totally lost it!! I haven't been able to find peace since. Maybe everything that has happened lately with this, it finally hit me, I don't know. It's at the same place as my mom and the services in the same chapel. I'm ready to get off of this ride now.......PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is an emotion that will follow you around for a while. It's totally normal.
I don't mean to derail this thread, but, I remember when my stepson passed away, I was out in the yard, the house was busy with people who'd stopped by. It was a warm, sunny day. I was struggling to find my bearings in my head. Then, a train whistled for the crossing by which we live. My head screamed, Stop this world for a bit!!!!! It just didn't seem right that my house was in such uproar and the trains and cars went by without a care.
Of course, that's the way it is, but it's one of the thoughts that scurried through my head.
Now, Stacy, back to you; You're going to have a rollercoaster of emotions. You'll be seesawing back and forth through a forest of feelings. Whatever you're feeling at a given moment is the right thing to feel. One minute you'll be laughing your head off at some memory which pertained to your grandmother, the next, you'll be in tears, back to laughter, with a moment or two of neutral feelings tossed in for good measure.
Find someone you can trust with your heart. Talk about what you're feeling. Don't expect them to "fix" it, you just need a good sounding board. Your sisters and aunt will be there for you, no doubt, but sometimes confiding in someone outside of the family circle helps more.

Fisher's Mom
06-15-2009, 06:26 PM
Biskit, that is exactly the way I felt when my daughter died. I couldn't comprehend how the rest of the world was going on like usual! Here's a poem I found later that described it so well:

W. H. Auden


Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

Biskit
06-15-2009, 06:30 PM
That's in, Terry! Great poem, great poem.

Fisher's Mom
06-15-2009, 06:34 PM
I have taken the task of doing her memorial website, the cd's for the services, pictures and getting a poem that is in my handwriting {loving that} titled My Mama's hands, typed and sent off to the funeral home to be put in the memorial pamphlet and get the obituary typed and sent off with her picture for the Dallas paper. My heart hurts, but, it feels good to take some off of my sister and aunt and do something to honor her. I'm off one more day on bereavement pay and I will be able to get this all done tomorrow.Please let us know if there is a place we can leave messages of condolence, Stacy.

Sass Muffin
06-15-2009, 06:34 PM
That's a beautiful poem Terry.
I hear you Monte, what you said up there--and it's so true.
After Steven died, I wondered how anyone in the world could walk down the street and smile or laugh, why the world kept turning- because mine stopped for a very long time.

Stacy, after a while- you'll forget all these sad feelings, and will only be left with the sweet/happy ones.
I promise.

Biskit
06-15-2009, 06:39 PM
Sass is absolutely right. That was beautifully written, Loralei! The sadness will go away in time. It doesn't mean much now, but I'm gonna tell you anyway. You'll have to be patient with yourself in your progress in grieving. You'll see progress, and be encouraged, then, a bad day, two days, whatever, will come and you'll feel like you're back at square One. That does NOT signal any sort of failure. You're just being normal. Whatever you're feeling...............
I think you'll be able to find a contingent of us, here, who'll ride the rollercoaster with yu as best we can.

Fisher's Mom
06-15-2009, 06:46 PM
It's a terrible club that we belong to - the ones who are left behind. But the only way to avoid it is never loving anyone enough to go through this hell. I don't think any of us would choose to love less, if given the chance. Stacy, Biskit, Sass, JoeC, and everyone else who's walked this way before - we will never be the same, but as Sass said, we will feel happiness again.

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 06:50 PM
thank you

Biskit
06-15-2009, 07:14 PM
It's a terrible club that we belong to - the ones who are left behind. But the only way to avoid it is never loving anyone enough to go through this hell. I don't think any of us would choose to love less, if given the chance. Stacy, Biskit, Sass, JoeC, and everyone else who's walked this way before - we will never be the same, but as Sass said, we will feel happiness again.

A terrible club, indeed, but, Terry nailed it. I wouldn't walk any different path, never!

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 07:17 PM
Please let us know if there is a place we can leave messages of condolence, Stacy.

I think this will work.


http://www.restlandfuneralhome.com/obituaries/tribute.html?url=http://stei-23954.tributes.com/show/Myrtle-Short-86142555

Biskit
06-15-2009, 07:22 PM
It worked for me, Stacy.

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 07:23 PM
It worked for me, Stacy.

I can see that. Thank you Monte!!:kiss:

Biskit
06-15-2009, 07:24 PM
It's about all I can do, right now.

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 07:37 PM
And it's more than you know!

Thank you too, Terry!!

Fisher's Mom
06-15-2009, 07:39 PM
You're welcome, Stacy. You are always one of the first to jump in when someone is having a hard time. I wish there was more we could do for you right now.

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 08:10 PM
you're doing more than you think you are.

BamsBBQ
06-15-2009, 09:57 PM
you knows i luvs yah Stacy... if you need to talk you know where to call..

my thoughts have been with you all day Dorkette..

TexasGirl
06-15-2009, 10:04 PM
Thank you, Jeff...............bigger dork!:kiss: