I was going to put this in Keltin's thread about losing Lisa, but figured it wouldn't be the best idea.
I just spoke to Chris and his words ripped at my heartstrings because I know exactly what he's feeling like right now.
When you lose a spouse, whether it's expected or not.. the hurt is just the same.
You feel broken and lost.. and even angry.
They are with you 24/7.. other family members aren't as a rule.
A spouse is a friend, confidant, lover,child (at times) they are everything all rolled into one.
When they are gone you feel like you have no reason to carry on.
After I lost my Steven, I slept on the floor of the living room in front of the fireplace for months, until his Father came from Lacashire to stay with me and get me back on track.
I rejected social friends and neighbours and became somewhat of a hermit.
Since I was living in England, my US family members weren't there.. phone calls and emails were the only communication I had with them, until I felt like flying back to the states and spending a month at "home" in Ohio thru Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Eventually I decided to move back here a year later.
Grief is a strange thing, and there are stages.
I seemed to have gone through them in an order that isn't considered normal, but I did go through it and got through it all, and Chris will too.
Losing loved ones isn't something I have suffered gracefully or bravely, although some seem to think I have.
I still weep for my Mom when I need her (that too shall pass).
Chris will weep for Lisa for a long time, but he will get used to being on his own with the help of friends and having his pets to cuddle at night.
Time heals all wounds- it surely does.
I just spoke to Chris and his words ripped at my heartstrings because I know exactly what he's feeling like right now.
When you lose a spouse, whether it's expected or not.. the hurt is just the same.
You feel broken and lost.. and even angry.
They are with you 24/7.. other family members aren't as a rule.
A spouse is a friend, confidant, lover,child (at times) they are everything all rolled into one.
When they are gone you feel like you have no reason to carry on.
After I lost my Steven, I slept on the floor of the living room in front of the fireplace for months, until his Father came from Lacashire to stay with me and get me back on track.
I rejected social friends and neighbours and became somewhat of a hermit.
Since I was living in England, my US family members weren't there.. phone calls and emails were the only communication I had with them, until I felt like flying back to the states and spending a month at "home" in Ohio thru Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Eventually I decided to move back here a year later.
Grief is a strange thing, and there are stages.
I seemed to have gone through them in an order that isn't considered normal, but I did go through it and got through it all, and Chris will too.
Losing loved ones isn't something I have suffered gracefully or bravely, although some seem to think I have.
I still weep for my Mom when I need her (that too shall pass).
Chris will weep for Lisa for a long time, but he will get used to being on his own with the help of friends and having his pets to cuddle at night.
Time heals all wounds- it surely does.